Me and Myself
By Ruba Zaid
Specialist in Holistic Health and Self-Healing
It is not easy for a person to sit with themselves in honesty, to become still enough to truly hear their inner voice amid the noise of endless thoughts, and to sense that silent gap between the ego and the self.
This is not a gap visible to the eye, but one deeply felt within, a quiet struggle between what the heart desires and what the mind dictates, between the ego’s drive to move forward and the self’s longing for safety.
Every human being lives an inner war that is rarely spoken of.
At times, the ego wants to advance, while the self fears change. The ego seeks recognition and distinction, while the self longs for peace and acceptance. This conflict appears when you wish to take on something new, yet an inner voice whispers, “You’ll fail.” Or when you want to speak your truth, but silence takes over, out of fear of rejection or confrontation.
These are not fleeting hesitations, but rather the clash between the ego’s desire for achievement and the self’s instinct for protection. The ego strives to grow, while the self seeks safety. Both are parts of you, not enemies, but wings that need balance for you to truly fly.
The ego is the conscious, logical part of you, it plans, decides, and wants to prove itself.
The self represents your inner, subconscious world, where old emotions, fears, and memories are stored, shaping your behavior without you realizing it. When the ego’s ambitions collide with the self’s fears, an inner split occurs — leaving you confused, restless, and detached from your own spark without knowing why.
Several factors quietly widen this gap.
A lack of self-awareness keeps us blind to the conflict, creating an inner disconnection that grows over time. Our fear of self-confrontation pushes us to avoid looking within, afraid of discovering a flaw or weakness we’d rather deny.
The constant busyness of life steals our ability to listen to ourselves. And old conditioning has taught us to please others at the expense of our own needs, to silence our inner voice so we don’t upset society or break the norm.
Thus, a person often finds themselves in a silent war, appearing fine on the outside while slowly falling apart within, torn between an ego that wants to rise and a self-afraid to let go.
Here, holistic health comes in, as a bridge connecting the ego and the self, restoring inner balance.
It goes beyond healing the body; it embraces the whole human being, body, mind, emotions, relationships, and spirit.
Holistic healing doesn’t just treat surface symptoms, it looks for the roots: What experience planted the fear? What past wound still controls me today?
Through awareness practices, meditation, and deep breathing, we reopen the channels of communication between the ego and the self.
The inner dialogue becomes more harmonious; the war turns into peace.
We begin to live from a place of consciousness and acceptance instead of division and denial.
Me and Myself is not a battle one side must win —it is a relationship that needs to be understood and embraced.
When the ego reconciles with the self,a person enters a state of inner peace, surrender, and mental clarity —a strength and confidence that radiate through every aspect of life.
True self-satisfaction is nothing more than the gentle harmony between these two worlds —a real sense of balance and wholeness between what you feel and what you choose.
